Emily Foster aka Emily Nagoski, Part Two

Where was I? Oh, right, books and sex and the right way to do things. I have finished her first book, How Not to Fall, since the last post and I gained insight into her terms. I think. She is a very scholarly person and touches on a lot of social norms. Go read it, it’s great and I look forward to the next opening in my reading schedule so I can read the second one. Continue reading “Emily Foster aka Emily Nagoski, Part Two”

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Thirty Reasons to be Thankful, Part One

On Facebook, where I live, my 500 plus close, personal friends are posting something they are thankful for every day in November. I thought about it, but between keeping the flock clean, fed, and watered, and writing two thousand words a day for NaNoWriMo, I am just going to throw my list up here, and be done with it.

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Break the Rules

Aspiring writers are given rules and tips and formulas and charts and character sheets and plotting methods from day one. Especially Romance writers. Because there is a certain expectation that readers have for reading a romance novel. Sure, you can label it a formula, but there are millions of ways to apply that formula. Still, is it a romance if you don’t provide certain expected points? Continue reading “Break the Rules”

You Might be a Heroine IF!

Stealing shamelessly from Jeff Foxworthy, I sat reading a Regency novel recently, and noted a behavior in the heroine. Then I read a hockey romance (yeah, my newest addiction) and saw the same behavior. Thinking back, there are lots of things that apply to the heroines in romance novels. At least 85 %, to be honest. Here’s the ones that popped into my brain.

You Might Be A Heroine IF – you enjoy doing things that most women in your position would not think of doing. Such as galloping in Hyde Park during the peak of the social hour. Or taking long walks in the country without a chaperone. Even reading serious books about politics and philosophy. (Side note, a critiquer once complained about heroines always loving to read, to the point that it seems a cliché. Well, we all love to read. And we have television, movies, computers, and so on to choose from. In Regency England, reading was one of very few entertainments allowed to young women. If you had half a brain, you would love to read.)
You Might Be A Heroine IF – whenever the hero’s unfashionably long hair falls into his eyes, you can hardly resist brushing it back for him. Dude, buy a comb!

You Might Be A Heroine IF – you are extremely poor but have a kind heart and pure soul. And you are still fascinating to the men in your life.

You Might Be A Heroine IF – you have brothers, sisters, cousins, uncles, aunts, even nieces and nephews who might have their own romance story to tell. It’s awesome because then you and your true love will get to make guest appearances in those future stories.

You Might Be A Heroine IF – you are willing to sacrifice your love and you chance at a happy ever after in order to do something noble for the man you love. You may cry afterward.

You Might Be A Heroine IF – rather than buy yourself a new dress or shoes, you spend all your income on seeing to the old family retainers who have been more like family to you than your actual family.

You Might Be A Heroine IF – there is something unusual about you. You had a foreign parent, or are dark when the fashion is for blonds, are thin when the fashion is for plump armfuls, or are witty when women should be vacuous and should not speak up.

You Might Be A Heroine IF – there’s a spark in your heart to write a story about an unusual woman who makes a difference in the lives of those who read about her.

Best wishes for your own Happy Ever After. I’ll be back on Sunday.

How Does Alpha Happen?

For my NaNoWriMo project, I am writing an Alpha male who feels a bond to the heroine but she has her own agenda. When he tries to treat her like a “girl,” he damages the relationship that is barely starting between them. Of course he will have to change and let her fight her own battles to some extent. But how did he get to be that way?

I have trouble writing Alphas, I think. I like nice guys, and I don’t think they finish last. Okay, I started to write an innuendo here, and changed my mind, so just pretend I did. But back to how I am going to make Ash Leander a tough guy when he’s really a pussy cat. See what I did there? He’s a jaguar shape shifter. I crack myself up!

Here’s a list of the 25 traits of an Alpha Male: http://www.traitsofthealphamale.com/77/25-traits-of-an-alpha-male/ Ash scores high in 1 and 2, comfortable with himself, and passionate about life. Also 6, high morale code. Finding out his life mate married someone else is devastating to him, but he still won’t leave her side. Even if there’s no way he can be, you know, with her. Sigh.

I don’t think 9 or 10 really apply to Ash. He dresses well, but in the business of covert ops, he usually ends up in ripped shirts and shorts. Ahem. Give me a minute. Here’s the male model whose gorgeous body is my muse for Ash: http://www.pinterest.com/pin/514606694895309266/ Not much to go on, sartorially. And growth is something he leaves up to The Family. They run the business, he just does his job.

But the rest are very much spot on. This list narrows it down to five traits: http://www.sharpergame.com/inner-game/the-5-alpha-male-traits-women-simply-cant-resist/ These are the ones that make an Alpha irresistible to women. Confidence, composed, not afraid to take a risk, not given to bragging or worrying what other people thing, and not lacking in leadership skills. Okay. That’s good.

Now that we know what an Alpha is all about, HOW did he get that way? Or did he? Is Alpha vs. Beta personality a myth? http://www.artofmanliness.com/2014/07/07/the-myth-of-the-alpha-male/ So maybe in real life they do not exist, but in Romance Novels, to quote my Amazon parrot, “Heck, yeah!”

I found this list of Alpha males, and found an interesting fact about each of them. http://www.askmen.com/money/successful_150/178_success.html Each of these examples started out with a lack of things going for them. Either from poor backgrounds, or considered a freak, or pretty much not worth noticing. Fighting back and making it to the top is the resonating life goal for Alphas.

And that’s pretty much where Ash got his Alpha traits. He was orphaned about the time his jaguar started shifting. Chances are the people in his village would have killed him if he had not been found by the Fidel family. With the help of his foster parents, he learned to take care of himself, to rely on his own skills, and to assist the people around him to make the best of their own skills. He wants everyone to come through their various missions as winners.

I should figure out why Romela isn’t very interested in his skills. Maybe, as this last link quotes at the end of the article, “Alpha Males are jerks. I can’t stand how attracted I am to them.” I’ll be back on Sunday.

Music Soothes the Savage Author

Have you heard about BookTrack.com? I just saw a side bar ad for it on Facebook (how does FB know I’m a writer, that’s what I want to know?). Here’s their site: http://www.booktrack.com/ and here’s what Uncle Wiki has to say about them: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Booktrack

I had this idea! Just within the last year, I was having lunch with a friend and my husband, and the friend thought it would be easy to add a sound track to an ebook. We also talked about interactive maps and such, which I understand is also a current possibility. But not being a programer and not having money, someone beat me to this idea. Oh, well.

My Scribophile friends and I often discuss music to write by and to accompany some of their writings. One author could hardly believe how much this song by Loreena McKennit described his main characters and their relationship. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7LS4fiLHnMw Another thought of her character who was in rehab while listening to John Mayer’s In Repair. http://youtu.be/HKDPaf40LCw

Another listened repeatedly to The Eagles There’s a Hole in the World Tonight. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=haNpuHZam40

One of my favorite up and coming writers on Scribophile has a couple who got together for one of those wonderful, no strings, nothing but sex arrangements, and fell deeply in love. She picked 30 Seconds to Mars’ version of Stay. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IqPATbDhrb4

And there are pages and pages more of songs that either inspired the writer or reflect exactly the feeling they wanted in the story. As a writer of Regency Romances, I find things a little less easy, because I want any music I listen to to be period, and because I don’t really have time to listen to lots of songs to find the right ones. It’s not like I am going to hear a perfect tune on the radio, not even classics on NPR.

A little time on Google, however, does present a few great selections. Take, for example, my “friend” Roxana Haley’s Regency Erotic Romance, Appetizer: Pure Seduction. The opening of the story could be accompanied by this sprightly tune, Backhofen Rondo. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I9rNU6GuK70 Once the main characters meet each other, the Gavota de Cortesana is a good choice. The video is very amateurish, but the music is what I want to share. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jWdlPcPBKWY

And not to give too much away, when the events come to a head and all is revealed, just about any jig or reel will do! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_3xeTpgLP5o

I’ll admit it, until I started to write this blog post, I simply moaned about the difficulties of finding the right Regency music for my stories. Now that I’ve dug in and got a start, I find it’s not that hard at all. Rather a lot like writing!

I finally dug in and listened to Pandora while working away today. They have a British Folk Music station. Who knew? I liked The Maid That Sold Her Barley https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZHo44M-J4PI, The Raggle Taggle Gypsy https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2WhifjRViZc and I especially like Red is the Rose https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_KPfB_PRYlY.

Problem solved, life is good, and I have writing to do! Hope you might purchase my “friend”’s ebook and write a review! Thanks, I’ll be back on Thursday.